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Derek Wilder's avatar

This is so sharp, and it lines up painfully well with what I see when I zoom out on the “geometry” of a lot organizations: we’ve built systems that reward overconfident, low‑empathy noise and then act surprised when thoughtful, self‑aware women get penalized for the exact traits that make complex, chaotic teams survivable. The reframing you offer—that apologizing, trusting, telling the truth about your own limits, and leading while raising humans are not bugs but leadership features—is exactly the attractor shift many companies need if they want their culture to evolve instead of just hiring more “mediocre men” and calling it progress.

Jeff Matlow's avatar

Thank you for the comment and I’m glad you see the same thing at companies that I do.

We would be a better world if we reframed the behavior and celebrated the strengths for what they are.

Kat Kim's avatar

So many great nuggets in this article! I’m sharing with all the great women and mediocre men!

Jeff Matlow's avatar

Awesome. I’m so glad you liked it Kat - and thanks for sharing!

Kat Kim's avatar

My absolute pleasure. Look forward to reading more of your content. ☺️

Dr Donna Blevins's avatar

And she has a smart man 🤗

Jeff Matlow's avatar

I keep telling her that. Someday she’ll believe me. I probably need to stop tripping on my own feet first.

Dr Donna Blevins's avatar

Awww Come on Jeff. Give yourself more credit for how unique you are! This article written by a man exposing men's insensitive flaws. You sir are one of a kind 👍

Dr Donna Blevins's avatar

Spot on, Jeff! Grateful to see a man stand up and acknowledge the hidden power of women.

Indulge me with my theory:

If men gave birth, we would have a natural built-in population control.

Jeff Matlow's avatar

Hahaha. So true. I talk about this with my wife all the time. We passionately agree that it’s easier to be a man.

Dr Donna Blevins's avatar

Smart woman!

Jeff Matlow's avatar

She is. Smarter than she thinks.

Dr Donna Blevins's avatar

Spot on, Jeff! Grateful to see a man stand up and acknowledge the hidden power of women.

Indulge me with my theory:

If men gave birth, we would have a natural built-in population control.

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Jeff Matlow's avatar

That is really interesting and seems fairly accurate. Can you share a link to your article here?